Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Waiting Lessons

Baby girl was born 11 weeks ago.  We thought we’d only have to wait a month before bringing her home.  It has felt like a long wait.

Someone asked me the other day if I’ve figured out yet what God has been trying to teach me through the wait.  The obvious answers would be patience and reliance on Him.  And I’ve been stretched in those areas for sure.  But the most important lesson I think I’ve learned is about the value of community.  Of opening myself up to other women, and being vulnerable, and letting them care for me.  I have stronger relationships with more women now than I did three months ago.  And I am positive that this would not be the case if we had not been forced to wait.

I’ve had friends whom I haven’t talked with in years email or text me out of the blue to say they were thinking about me, or praying for me, or to give me encouragement through their own stories about waiting.  I’ve had friends open up their homes to me and let me come in and just hang out for the day.  I’ve had friends stop and pray with me.  I’ve had friends give me baby stuff and (welcome) parenting advice.  I’ve had friends laugh with me.  I’ve had friends help me figure out how the heck one assembles a pack-n-play.  I’ve had friends set up showers and meals.  I’ve had friends send cards and stupid pictures that made me laugh.  I’ve had friends willing to drive long distances just to celebrate with us.  For heavens’ sake, I have a friend who gave me her frozen breastmilk – how much better does it get than that? 

And I’ve learned that I desperately need those friends.  I’ve learned that it is ok to be vulnerable.  It is ok to need help.  It is ok to need your village.

Love to all,
Jeannine

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